Ask Donnell: Why Can't I Stop Going Back To This Sin?

Ask Donnell: Why Can't I Stop Going Back To This Sin?

We received the following question from Josh;

"Hi Mr Donnell i am 13 years old and i wanted to ask “How do i get on track with God?” because i have been listening to secular music, watching the wrong type of movies and saying stuff i shouldn’t. How do i stop that? I've tried to stop but the addiction is hard to break how do i overcome that?"

Josh, great question. You're a brave young man. You are not alone. It's hard for anyone to admit a struggle but that's the first step to getting free. Over the years we've received and responded to questions like this one in different forms. As we've grown in The Lord we've learned more and more so today's answer to your question will be a little different to how we've approached it before. Let's see what The Bible has to say about it.

Romans 7:14-25(NLT) - So the trouble is not with the law, for it is spiritual and good. The trouble is with me, for I am all too human, a slave to sin. I don’t really understand myself, for I want to do what is right, but I don’t do it. Instead, I do what I hate. But if I know that what I am doing is wrong, this shows that I agree that the law is good. So I am not the one doing wrong; it is sin living in me that does it. And I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. I want to do what is right, but I can’t. I want to do what is good, but I don’t. I don’t want to do what is wrong, but I do it anyway. But if I do what I don’t want to do, I am not really the one doing wrong; it is sin living in me that does it. I have discovered this principle of life—that when I want to do what is right, I inevitably do what is wrong. I love God’s law with all my heart. But there is another power within me that is at war with my mind. This power makes me a slave to the sin that is still within me. Oh, what a miserable person I am! Who will free me from this life that is dominated by sin and death?

The Apostle Paul, who wrote most of The Bible by the inspiration of The Holy Ghost knew exactly what it felt like to struggle against sinful desires. In his heart he wanted to do what was right but constantly found himself doing what was wrong. It bothered him so much that he cried out to God for help in Romans 7. I don't know about you but I thank God for this level of transparency in the scriptures. Let me quickly touch on a few of the highlights in that scripture.

First, The Apostle Paul wrote this after he became a Christian. He was not speaking from the position of a sinner but he spoke as one who knew what was right but was in a battle to live it on a daily basis. He knew who God had created him to be and understood the difference between his true identity and the sin he struggled with. He did not let the sin define him. He looked at the sinful desire as an intruder that was in his life and he wanted it gone. That's the example he set for us. With that perspective, he then offered the solution.

Romans 7:25(NLT) - Thank God! The answer is in Jesus Christ our Lord. So you see how it is: In my mind I really want to obey God’s law, but because of my sinful nature I am a slave to sin.

Our answer is in Jesus Christ. It is in Him that we find our freedom from the power of the sinful nature that tries to choke the life out of us. We cannot fight the desire for sin with our own will. We are not strong enough to resist our human nature. We have to take on the new spiritual nature of Christ. He is our victory. Apostle Paul continues to elaborate on this issue in Romans 8.

Romans 8:1-4(NLT) - So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus. And because you belong to him, the power of the life-giving Spirit has freed you from the power of sin that leads to death. The law of Moses was unable to save us because of the weakness of our sinful nature. So God did what the law could not do. He sent his own Son in a body like the bodies we sinners have. And in that body God declared an end to sin’s control over us by giving his Son as a sacrifice for our sins. He did this so that the just requirement of the law would be fully satisfied for us, who no longer follow our sinful nature but instead follow the Spirit.

Don't feel condemned because of what you've been going through. I know it's shameful to be a Christian who struggles in any area but God does not condemn us. He presents the solution and sets us free. The power of the Spirit of God through Jesus has freed you from the power of sin. When He died on the cross He ended the grip of sin over your life. So how do you receive that freedom?

You are spirit, soul and body. Once you accept Jesus Christ as your savior, your spirit is set free. If there is any remnant of a spiritual stronghold in your life, you can go to your pastor for spiritual deliverance. He will cast out that spirit in the name of Jesus. Once you receive your spiritual deliverance there is another step that has to be taken. The struggle then becomes one with your soul (mind, will and emotions) and your body.

Your soul is where you develop habits and foster desires. It's there where the bondage to sin can still have an effect on your life even when your spirit has been made free. You have to retrain your mind to think the right way and your body to crave the right things. If you're accustomed to doing certain things it's really difficult to just stop even if you know you don't have to do it anymore. Here's my advice and take this from my heart to yours.

Matthew 18:19-21(KJV) - Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven. For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12(NKJV) - Two are better than one, Because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, For he has no one to help him up. Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; But how can one be warm alone? Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

Get help! You can never break a habit alone. Find someone you can trust who is strong in The Lord and ask that person to help you win this battle. God always places strong, mature Christians in our lives who have the power and the love in their hearts to fight the enemy alongside us until we win. Some people call a person like this an "Accountability Partner". This person must be stronger than you in The Lord and able to hold you up spiritually when you are down.

Ask God to show you who that person is. Let that person pray with you and encourage you to do what's right. This Christian leader should help you set and maintain physical boundaries to cut off access to those things which God will free you from. Allow that person to ask you questions and check on you regularly. Let that person speak into your life and help you to make adjustments that align with your commitment to do what's right. Never fight ungodly habits alone. You never win that way. Get someone to diagnose your problem and fight with you so that you will defeat it.

Matthew 12:43-45(KJV) - When the unclean spirit is gone out of a man, he walketh through dry places, seeking rest, and findeth none. Then he saith, I will return into my house from whence I came out; and when he is come, he findeth it empty, swept, and garnished. Then goeth he, and taketh with himself seven other spirits more wicked than himself, and they enter in and dwell there: and the last state of that man is worse than the first. Even so shall it be also unto this wicked generation.

The last thing we'll address today has to do with what you do after you've been delivered by God. If you do nothing the enemy returns and it will be worse the next time. Anytime you break a bad habit you cannot leave a vacuum or empty space in your life. You have to always replace bad habits with good habits. Humans are creatures of habit so if we are accustomed to something we will crave it whether it's good or bad. So you have to develop a new habit. Here are two quick ways to do that according to The Word of God.

Psalm 119:11(KJV) - Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee.

Mark 14:38(KJV) - Watch ye and pray, lest ye enter into temptation. The spirit truly is ready, but the flesh is weak.

The Word of God and prayer must be incorporated into your daily routine. They are sources of good habits that will keep you on the right track with God. Replace your secular music with Christian music that's full of The Word of God. Go to your local Christian bookstore and stock up on anointed, Christian music of whatever genre you prefer. There's every type of Christian music available so be sure to get whatever you like.

2 Corinthians 3:17-18(NKJV) - Now the Lord is the Spirit; and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty. But we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord.

Jesus said that The Word of God is truth and the truth will make you free. Develop a lifestyle of prayer and let your Accountability Partner help you with that. The more time you spend in God's face through His Word and prayer the more you become like Him. He will change your character into His image from glory to glory. You cannot change yourself but God can change you. His Spirit will set you free and keep you free.

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