Ask Donnell - How Do I Live Among Sin Yet Remain Pure?

Ask Donnell - How Do I Live Among Sin Yet Remain Pure?

We received the following question from Rosh;

"Living among sin but not being part of it.

Good night Donnell and Angel.
You are influenced and become what you see, hear and surround yourself with. Removing yourself from people, places and situations is possible but what if you cannot. I live where obscenity is a norm in my house. I too was part of it. Now that I am saved I try my best not to use it - but it's in the house. When upset it may initially not come out of my mouth but I say it in my mind but finally when I get really mad it comes out my mouth. What can I do to rid myself of it?"

Rosh, this is a valid question. Thanks for asking. The answer is not that straightforward because your situation isn't. Regardless, let's see what we can extract from The Word of God.

Option A - God Can Present The Opportunity To Move Somewhere Else

2 Peter 2:6-9(NLT) - Later, God condemned the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah and turned them into heaps of ashes. He made them an example of what will happen to ungodly people. But God also rescued Lot out of Sodom because he was a righteous man who was sick of the shameful immorality of the wicked people around him. Yes, Lot was a righteous man who was tormented in his soul by the wickedness he saw and heard day after day. So you see, the Lord knows how to rescue godly people from their trials, even while keeping the wicked under punishment until the day of final judgment.

If Lot were here today he would tell you that he knows exactly how you feel. The sin around him was tearing him up on the inside so much that it made him feel sick. God's response was very simple. He got Lot out of there. Even though Lot had to endure the wickedness for a while, God ensured that the experience was only temporary and eventually came to an end. Using this example as proof, The Apostle Peter said that The Lord knows how to rescue godly people from their trials. In this case, God's rescue plan is a complete exit from the situation.

Option B - God Can Present A Way Of Escape In The Midst Of Your Situation

1 Corinthians 10:12-14(NKJV) - Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall. No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.

I always thought that when The Apostle Paul used the phrase; "a way of escape" he meant a way to physically get out of the situation completely. This is supported by the Greek word it is translated from, "ekbasis" which means "an egress, way out, exit". My assumption was that my awareness of a way of escape is what gives me the ability to bear my situation. However, as I was writing this response, The Holy Spirit opened my eyes to another dimension of understanding.

Think about this. Read the reason given in 1 Corinthians 10:14 for why the way of escape is created. It is not created so that you can exit the situation but so that you can bear it. If God creates a way of physical escape from the situation how is that giving you the ability to bear it? You don't need the ability to bear something if you can physically escape it and not experience it at all. Therefore, when you find yourself in a challenging situation if God chooses not to take you out of it completely, He reassures you in two ways. First, He guarantees that you have what it takes to handle it and second He gives you a way to escape it while you're still in the middle of it. How is that even possible? I'm glad you asked.

John 17:14-20(AMP) - I have given and delivered to them Your word (message) and the world has hated them, because they are not of the world [do not belong to the world], just as I am not of the world. I do not ask that You will take them out of the world, but that You will keep and protect them from the evil one. They are not of the world (worldly, belonging to the world), [just] as I am not of the world. Sanctify them [purify, consecrate, separate them for Yourself, make them holy] by the Truth; Your Word is Truth. Just as You sent Me into the world, I also have sent them into the world. And so for their sake and on their behalf I sanctify (dedicate, consecrate) Myself, that they also may be sanctified (dedicated, consecrated, made holy) in the Truth. Neither for these alone do I pray [it is not for their sake only that I make this request], but also for all those who will ever come to believe in (trust in, cling to, rely on) Me through their word and teaching,

Based on this scripture, every single Christian on this earth is living in the middle of a sinful world. Therefore, from a big picture perspective, we are really all in the same situation. However, Jesus gave us His plan. It is very different to the plan of physical escape God had for Lot. Pay close attention to the prayer Jesus prayed. He asked God not to take us out of the world but to keep and protect us from the evil within it. Yup, that's what He said. Physical escape was not an option.

We have to stay in the middle of the world yet not let any of the world's evil get in the middle of us. How can we be kept from the evil in the world if we live in the middle of it? Four words... The Word of God! Jesus said that the truth of God's Word will purify, consecrate and separate us from the evil in the world. That's your answer! If Jesus could live in the middle of a sinful world and not sin even once, He knows what He's talking about.


God is sovereign. If He doesn't want you there anymore He will open the door for you to move. However, if God doesn't open the door for you to leave your situation then your way of escape is The Word of God. You should spend more time listening to God's Word than you do listening to the profanity being spoken around you. If you have your own room that's even better. You can fill your room with The Word of God through books, music, videos and The Internet. At the very least, you can control the atmosphere in your head whenever you have to be in the house by enjoying private time in your room with a pair of headphones.

Matthew 5:13-16(NKJV) - “You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt loses its flavor, how shall it be seasoned? It is then good for nothing but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot by men. “You are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do they light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a lampstand, and it gives light to all who are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven.

Sometimes we want to leave the world in darkness and go where there is only light. However, that's not always God's plan. If He puts you in the middle of the darkness you should shine right there for as long as you have to. The Word of God is your way of escape mentally, emotionally and spiritually when you cannot physically escape your situation. Use it and escape the evil around you. You can't control the physical environment in your house but you can control the environment in your heart.

For every profane word spoken around you, there should be two encouraging words from God's Word entering your heart. What you can't control, you can't control but what you can control, you should control. Control what you put into your heart whenever you can control it. Overcome evil with good. It's not an ideal situation but you can handle it. Pray that God transforms your family and volunteer yourself to be used by Him to do it.

Sanctify, purify, consecrate and separate yourself with the truth of God's Word on a consistent basis. Also, remember that faith without works is dead and you cannot only be a hearer of The Word but a doer also. Hence, let The Word of God be seen through your actions so that you can be a light in the darkness around you. Instead of joining in the profanity live out the holiness of God's Word right in the midst of it. God might be keeping you there just for that reason. Don't let them change you, let The Word of God in you change them. Impose The Kingdom of God on the Kingdom of darkness. Let them see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven.

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