Ask Donnell - How Do I Find Balance In My Life?

Ask Donnell - How Do I Find Balance In My Life?

We received the following question from Vanessa;

"How do I find, keep and maintain balance? I do it for my children but I find it difficult to do it for myself. I get it sometimes but it keeps escaping me. I make time to be with god and actually that’s what keeps me, but with personal assignments I find myself lagging. I do alot of introspection and I grade myself the hardest. I know what failure is! I just can’t experience it again. I am secure in god but somehow I feel like am playing the “give and hold back” with god. At this place or this season in my life it’s the hardest dig’ and the deepest depth I have ever had to dig and IT just makes me cry! THE BALANCE."

Wow! That's a deep question! When you find the answer let us know, we need to hear it too. 🙂

OK, I'll be serious. Time is a non-renewable resource. Once a moment in time passes it is gone forever. You cannot control it. The only thing you can control is what you do with it. You cannot make time. Until time is no more, every day will have 24 hours and you cannot create another second to add to it. So what are you doing with the 24 hrs you have each day?

As long as you are alive you are doing something with the time you have. You may not always be doing something productive but you're doing something. Therefore, if you need time to do something else, you can only exchange something you are already doing with some other activity you would like to do instead.

Before you find any balance I do believe you have to take care of any "non-negotiables". These are the things that you must do and cannot compromise with. Your relationship with God is one of them. Matthew 6:33 says, "But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you."

At the very least, even if your life is completely lopsided let it be lopsided in the direction of doing God's Will. If you take care of what God wants you to do, you're not just helping out your life on earth, you are taking care of your eternity. At least, get God's stuff done. It sounds like you know that so you're off to a good start.

Trying to find balance within the limited confines of time is probably a lifelong challenge. Nonetheless, there are answers to even our deepest questions somewhere in The Bible. Let's see what the wisest man to walk the earth other than Jesus had to say.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8(NLT) - For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven. A time to be born and a time to die. A time to plant and a time to harvest. A time to kill and a time to heal. A time to tear down and a time to build up. A time to cry and a time to laugh. A time to grieve and a time to dance. A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones. A time to embrace and a time to turn away. A time to search and a time to quit searching. A time to keep and a time to throw away. A time to tear and a time to mend. A time to be quiet and a time to speak. A time to love and a time to hate. A time for war and a time for peace.

According to this scripture, in order to properly manage your life within the limited confines of time the first thing you must do is understand what season you are in. What you do with your time should always be determined by the season you are in at any given time. Therefore, unless two people are in the same season, their schedules should never be the same if they are to maximize the time they have been given.

For instance, in this season of my life I have certain priorities that differ from the previous season of my life. Since I recognize the season I am currently in I know what must be at the top of my commitment list, what must be lower down and what cannot be on the list at all. What season are you in right now? If you're not sure, guess who knows? 🙂

Psalm 139:16(NLT) - You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.

You guessed it. God! The entire series I completed recently on discovering The Will of God for your life was more of a "big picture" approach but there was one part which directly applies to your question. If you have not done so already or if you just need a refresher, read "A Progressive Revelation Of God's Will." As much as God has a Will for your life, He also has a Will for your day. He has a plan for what each day should look like and at the beginning you just might want to find out.

Ask Donnell - How Do I Find Balance In My Life?

I will tell you what The Lord put on my heart as I meditated on the answer to this question. He said that balancing your time is like balancing a budget. You only have so much money coming in and you have to divide your expenses to ensure that you account for everything that's important. If you don't balance it, you will have a budget deficit and end up in financial debt. At that point, you only have two options. You can either increase your income or decrease your expenditure until the budget is balanced again.

The same can be said of your time. You only have limited time each day. You also have a limited number of days. Only God determines your number of days but the length of each day is the same. Take stock today of your "daily time budget." Do you have a time deficit or are you in "time debt?" Since you cannot create more time you have to decrease your "time expenditure." Here's a kingdom principle that will help.

Matthew 5:37(NLT) - Just say a simple, ‘Yes, I will,’ or ‘No, I won’t.’ Anything beyond this is from the evil one.

There's a powerful two letter word that will revolutionize the life of anyone in a time crunch. The word is "NO!" I love that word so much. I use it very often. I have no problem telling folks "NO!" I don't need to give everyone an explanation for why I can't give them more time than they are alloted in the budget. The answer is simply, "No, I can't make it!" and if the activity fits into the time budget, "Yes, I can!" Here's another kingdom principle that applies.

Proverbs 22:29(KJV) - Seest thou a man diligent in his business? he shall stand before kings; he shall not stand before mean men.

1 Thessalonians 4:11(KJV) - And that ye study to be quiet, and to do your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you;

Thus saith The Lord, "Take care of your own business!" I can't make everybody happy and neither can you. You have some personal responsibilities that need to be taken care of and you need to get them done. Other people have their own business to take care of and they should get them done.

When you're done with your business, if you have more time you are free to involve yourself in anyone else's business. At the end of your days, you will have to answer to God for what you did with your time and nobody else's. I admire you search for balance. May God guide you through this process and bless you.

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