Don't Set Yourself Up For Disappointment

Don't Set Yourself Up For Disappointment

Jeremiah 17:5(NKJV) - Thus says the Lord: "Cursed is the man who trusts in man And makes flesh his strength, Whose heart departs from the Lord.

How many people have to let you down before you stop expecting more from them than you should? I once learned that disappointment is very subjective. Your level of disappointment is measured by your expectations. As a result, if your expectations are too high for people in your life you are setting yourself up for disappointment. You don't rely on unreliable people. You don't expect consistency from inconsistent people. You don't expect people to give up their comforts in order to help you out.

You don't expect commitment from people who haven't proven their commitment to you. You don't expect support from people who don't value what you do or who you are. Even when people show you a limited level of support don't expect them to take it to a level that costs them something. Whatever you do, don't set yourself up for disappointment. It's not their fault when they let you down, it's your fault for expecting them not to.

Romans 3:4(NKJV) - Certainly not! Indeed, let God be true but every man a liar. As it is written: "That You may be justified in Your words, And may overcome when You are judged."

People lie! Some do it on purpose and others don't mean to do it. Don't let anyone play you for a fool. If you put your trust in human beings you are cursed according to Jeremiah 17:5. Those are some very strong words but we must take heed because they are exactly what The Lord said. What does it mean to be cursed? It means that things won't go well for you or you are empowered to fail. When it's put like that it makes a lot of sense. Putting your heart in the hands of people instead of in God's hands is a recipe for failure so you probably shouldn't try it.

A few years ago while complaining to my wife about folks letting me down again and again she responded with the following great advice; "Be thankful for what people bring to the table and don't complain about what they don't". In other words, when they come through for you be happy but don't make an issue when they don't. Just thank God for what you do get from them instead of being disappointed about what you don't get because you could have gotten nothing. People are people and after some time you will learn that human beings are inherently selfish. It is in our nature to look out for ourselves first. Hence, my expectations have been adjusted to match what I know now.

John 2:24-25(NLT) - But Jesus didn't trust them, because he knew human nature. No one needed to tell him what mankind is really like.

Learn from the example of Jesus. He didn't trust them because He knew human nature. There's no better way to say it. He knew people couldn't be trusted so He didn't trust them. He was smart and some of us need to be as smart as He was. You know how people are. So why do you keep getting your hopes up only to have them dashed over and over? Have you not learned from your past experiences already? The first time they let you down, it's their fault. The next time they do it it's yours.

Jesus was not gullible because He understood people. He knew Judas would betray Him. He knew Peter would deny Him. He knew most of His disciples would abandon Him as He walked alone to the cross. He knew His own people would reject Him. Armed with that knowledge He adjusted His expectations to limit the level of disappointment He felt when people did exactly what He knew they would do in the first place. He loved them to the very end but He knew what to expect. If Jesus didn't trust them, why would you?

Isaiah 26:3(NKJV) - You will keep him in perfect peace, Whose mind is stayed on You, Because he trusts in You.

Putting your trust in people positions you for disappointment but putting your trust in God positions you for peace. Are you tired of the disappointment yet? I hope so. Put your trust in God and receive His peace!

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