Ask Donnell: How Will God Confirm Someone As Your Future Wife?

Ask Donnell: How Will God Confirm Someone As Your Future Wife?

We received the following question from a Christian brother;

"If God tells you that He is entrusting you with someone what does that mean? Also, does it spell confirmation that the young lady is your wife?"

Psalm 37:23(NKJV) - The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord, And He delights in his way.

"I don't know all the factors that determine a succesful marriage but marrying the right person certainly helps." - Anonymous

Great question brother. I have heard it said several times that God doesn't get involved in your choice of a spouse. It's really up to you. It's really one of those decisions that is left to personal preference. God gives you choices and you have to make one. Is that really true? Let's see. On one extreme, some people credit God for decisions that do not involve God. I acknowledge that people have abused the prophetic gift and have pretended to hear from The Lord concerning a potential spouse. I know of both men and women who have heard "The Lord" tell them they were supposed to marry someone and were completely wrong.

However, let's not go on the other extreme and think God wants nothing to do with the decision. Is it really true that the selection of a spouse should be completely up to you without the involvement of God? After seeing some of the disastrous decisions people have made when selecting a spouse I surely hope not. Would God really abandon us to make one of the most important decisions of our lives on our own? Would He leave it up to chance knowing that if we get it wrong we could pay the consequences for the rest of our lives? What does The Bible say?

Proverbs 3:5-6(KJV) - Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

In how many ways should we acknowledge Him? All! What does that mean? God will direct your path in any area of your life that you choose to allow Him to direct. Yes, He has an opinion. He knows the future. He can tell you if you are making the right decision or you're about to make the worst decision of your life. Trust in The Lord with all of your heart. What could be more a matter of the heart than marriage? If there's any decision that needs to be directed by God, it's this one.

Like any other decision God won't make the decision for you but He sure can tell you which decision to make if you ask Him. He didn't force you to choose Christ but He pointed you in the right direction. It was your decision to choose Christ. The same goes for your wife. James 1:5 says if you lack wisdom ask God and He will give it to you. How does He give wisdom?

Psalm 119:105 says that God guides you through His Word. John 16:13 says that The Holy Spirit guides you into all truth. Proverbs 11:14 says that there is wisdom in a multitude of counselors. Proverbs 31 describes the type of wife any man should desire. Proverbs 21:19 and 27:15 describe the type of wife no man should desire. 1 Corinthians 17 defines how single and married people should act. These are just a few of the ways in which God can guide your decision. Now on to your specific question. 🙂

Question: "If God tells you that He is entrusting you with someone what does that mean? Also, does it spell confirmation that the young lady is your wife?"

Hmm... God is entrusting you with someone. It sounds like He's trusting you to take care of someone. Does that sound like the role of a husband? Let's not make anything up, the easiest way to approach this is to understand the role of a husband as defined in The Bible. Let's see what it says.

Ephesians 5:25-30(AMP) - Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her, So that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the Word, That He might present the church to Himself in glorious splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such things [that she might be holy and faultless]. Even so husbands should love their wives as [being in a sense] their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself. For no man ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and carefully protects and cherishes it, as Christ does the church, Because we are members (parts) of His body.

God expects a husband to nourish, carefully protect and cherish his wife like he would his own body. That sounds like God entrusts the wife to her husband. If you're wondering if that young lady He spoke to you about is the one God has for you then what God told you could be a sign. On its own it may have many interpretations but you just need to combine it with the other ways God guides you, some of which I mentioned earlier. God will speak through His Word, His Spirit and His people. If you've heard from Him in all the other ways and then He told you that He is entrusting her to you I think you need to start saving your money for that ring. 🙂 Anyway, let me stop. This is serious business.

If God is saying something to you then you should feel safe to seek confirmation. Emotions also speak so if your emotions contradict God's Word, He'll say something different through an alternate avenue. Every way in which God speaks should be consistent. He will continue to say the same thing including what He says to her concerning you. This is no easy decision but it sure helps when you can hear God's voice clearly and it's confirmed. There's no need to rush, make assumptions or draw your own conclusions. You definitely want to get this one right.

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